The Phase In

Last month Noey began a twos program at a Montessori school on the UWS. She attends the school three days a week from 8:30 am (or whenever I drop her off) to 3:30 pm. There are ten children in Noey’s class and three teachers.

As a new student, the school required Noey to participate in phase-in period which I thought would be difficult as a working parent. Luckily, her teachers were extremely accommodating in accelerating the period based on Noey’s comfort level. Although Noey was only scheduled to attend school for one hour her first day of school (with a parent in the classroom), she adjusted so well that she was able to stay until lunch. I was able to leave after 45 minutes in the classroom and her father picked her up. The next day she stayed through lunch and the following day she stayed through her nap and the phase-in period was complete. Typically, the teachers increase the time by an hour each day and slowly move parents out of the classroom as children become comfortable with their teachers and environment.

The school does not have a kitchen so parents must pack a lunch each day. I packed Noey’s lunch the first week and quickly learned how difficult it is come up with a different lunch each day. Especially in a nut free school that does not permit peanut-butter and jelly sandwiches. I decided to enroll in the school’s Red Rabbit program which includes a daily hot lunch, fruit & veggie snack and drink. It’s an additional cost but well worth the money for the time saved trying to come up with a lunch each day. The school does provide Cheerios and milk for the children to snack on in the morning and a fresh fruit or vegetable as a snack. The children are not permitted to have sippy cups. As part of the schools focus on personal care, children are encouraged to pour their own beverage, use glass dishware and wash their dishes. This may seem extreme to some parents, but the children seem to enjoy it. Washing dishes is a play activity for them.

decision

I will only move Brayden from 180 if he gets into Hunter or perhaps the Special Music School. I could not be happier with the educational environment, the parents and children and the goals of the school. I love that he gets homework and they are teaching him to have a critical voice of the book he reads. Too cute. In addition the monthly assignment he has is really well-rounded.

It's adorable to walk into the classroom and see the children rapt with attention- eyes completely focused on the teacher. Brayden said last weekend he missed his teacher :).

A big decision, bcs it's soooo easy to get caught up in the "designer handbag" trap, but 180 will prepare Brayden for a top school. I know as a parent my voice will be heard and I can make a difference.

Will work with a few parents to get an after school program next yr teaching a second language.

Crying, Screaming, Throwing

Last week Joshua threw some of the most outrageous fits I'd ever seen. When we arrived in his 12-18 month old classroom, he decided that he was not having whatever I packed for breakfast. He did not want cinnamon raisin bread, he did not want a banana and he most certainly did not want to be taken out of the high chair.

His teacher suggested that maybe he wanted a nutrigrain bar, which occasionally he gets as an afternoon snack. I was not a fan of giving him so much sugar first thing in the morning, but I was trying to get out the door to get to work, and at that point, whatever stopped his fit worked for me.

Well, Nutrigrain bars were not the answer. He grabbed the bar and mashed it into mush and threw it onto the floor. He cried and kicked and shock the tray on the high chair. What did this boy want?? I couldn't leave him in this hysterical state, so I took him out of the chair against very clear protest, and brought him into his older brother's room to see if seeing and eating with his brother helped. I had never seen him act like this and thought maybe something was seriously wrong. He eat one or two ambien of Amari's grapes, and then quickly reminded me that it was not what we wanted. He resumed crying and whining and sulked around the room.

I took him back to his classroom and told his teacher that seeing big brother did not help. I sat on the playmat and tried to distract him with toys and hugs and kisses. After about five minutes of waving different toys in front of him, he finally gave in and sat on my lap. I knew he was not pleased with the situation, but he was calming down, and I could leave for work.

I felt horrible getting into the car knowing that my baby had a need and I couldn't figure it out in order to fulfill it. Well, lucky for me, two days later he threw the same fit at home as we were getting ready for daycare. He was hungry and would not wait until we got to daycare to eat breakfast like we do everyday, so I put him in his chair and started offering the gamut. Bread, no. Bagel, no. Juice, no. Banana, no. Yogurt, no. Grapes, no. Orange, no. String cheese? no.

I went to the pantry and opened the door and started taking about boxes and bags of foods he had tried. After each package he shook his head violently and continued crying. Craisins, no. Pasta, no. Apple sauce, peanut butter, eggo waffles? No. No. NO. Oatmeal? Silence. Oatmeal... YES! Oatmeal, the boy wants oatmeal! Hallelujah! I figured it out and now I can get zithromax this boy to daycare and hopefully make it to work before 9:30.

The orange folder

On the first (or second, I can't quite remember) day of school, Lee brought home an orange folder with his name on it in his bookbag.  The is the primary method of communicating with the teacher.  The concept is sort of like sending notes by carrier pigeon back in the olden days.  School newsletters, forms, menus, announcements, notes from the teacher, the work your child did that day, are all placed in this folder in the bookbag on a daily basis.  Conversely, I can send notes to the teacher, money for Lee to purchase items from bake sales, and return forms by putting them in the folder.  The teacher empties the folder each day and routes the contents to the appropriate place in the school or reads the note and acts on it.  It's quite an efficient system as long as the folder is emptied and returned each day by both parties, parents and teachers.

For the most part, I've been returning the folder daily, although there has been one or two days that it's remained on the dining room table.  What I did not do was to figure out a way to store all of the stuff that comes home in the folder, so it was accumulating into yet another pile of stuff to figure out what to do with.  I'm a pack rat and information junkie so it's hard to just throw things away.  This past weekend I finally got a large 3 ring binder and a pack of dividers with the months of the year tabs and set about filing everything away.  This was so simple.  Why didn't I think of it before?

I now have a chronological record of all of the orange folder communication.  Lee's coloring pages and artwork that are not displayed are currently in the pockets of the binder.  This is only a temporary solution because at the rate that he's been bringing them home, those pockets will be filled by the end of November so I'll have to think of another solution for them soon.  Perhaps they'll just get their own orange folder.

Do you have a storage solution for your child's artwork that you would like to share?  Please leave a comment with it below.

Fundraising

Time has just been flying by.  I've survived our school's first fundraising drive for the year and, I'm not proud to say, my sales were abysmal.  When your child enrolls in preschool, whether it's public or private, get ready for the onslaught of fundraising events.  Our school requires a $300 fundraising contribution each year per family.  There are 2 types of fundraising events, the ones that are school sponsored and ones that are sponsored by the parents association.  The $300 limit applies to fundraising for school sponsored events only.  This year, school sponsored events are for Innisbrook and World's Finest Chocolates (gosh, I remember selling those when I went to school).  This first event was for Innisbrook.  I sold products to a whopping 3 people, not even close to my $300 target.  I'm at a disadvantage because I'm currently not working and my family and close friends are in Canada.  The company does not ship there.  Darn!  That limited my pool of potential purchasers to the few moms that I socialize with.  I have to admit that I'm not the world's best salesperson and it really showed.  There are any number of reasons I can find to explain away the results, but the fact is that better organization and a lack of procrastination could've resulted in a much better haul this time out.  It's a lesson learned for next time.  I WILL reach that $300 target,  it just might mean firing up my own chequebook :).

The First Month

It has been almost 1 month, since Surta joined Family Annex. She loves it! We are also happy to be a part of her school Family.

We had a first “parents to parents” meeting. Each parent chat with other parent for about 7 minutes. And later they introduced each other and their kids to the group. Surprisingly only 7 families were present. All three teachers also introduced themselves. The teachers mentioned parents about a typical day – start time, lunch time, out side time, working time, nap time etc. They explained in detail about project for coming month(s). Birthday time- no cakes and no
cookies!

Surta knows all her classmates and most parents & siblings. She and few other kids have nick names! They have different activity areas such as mini studio, dramatic area, manipulative area, block area, cozy area, dramatic play area and light table area. Also has music and movement time. She hums some new songs. And some times talks about her activity of the day. She never answers “how was your day?” But she talks a lot about school at bed time and with other older friends and adults. Most days she eats her lunch partially. Some days does not nap. She also has fun time playing with big kids in their “up stair” class. After 3:30 nursery class and pre K class merge.

Parents receive a daily journal via E-mail. The Teachers document 2/3 kids experience and conversation in an activity that day. And mention all other kids’ activity areas. The school organized pot luck dinner in nearby garden. Nice time to meet with kids and families through out the school. One of the family organize pot luck picnic at central park in week end. It was an informal relaxing time to see kids playing, parents interacting with them and chatting with each other.

getting in the groove

We’re getting in the groove, even though we still have to run to school to avoid being late! Did I mention we live ACROSS the street from the school?

One big glitch which enraged, ENRAGED me. I know communication in schools is a problem. But you need to get it together when it’s a big problem. This was a big problem. It’s no secret that NYC has a bedbug problem and that the bugs are notoriously difficult and expensive to get rid of.

My manny was told midweek to wash the sheets and sweater of Brayden’s. Not really thinking he didn’t ask any questions. Well it turns out that one of the students has bedbugs. If the staff is aware of a potential problem they should let the parents know- I’d rather throw out the articles instead of bringing them into the class.

Worse, some parents were still unaware the following day of the potential problem. One mom didn’t think twice and just had the items still lying around in her house. It wasn’t until I told her that she ran home panicked.

Guess it’s time for me to make some enemies at the PTA meeting, because I’m about to get evil.

Label EVERYTHING!

One of the most important thing they should tell new parents is to label absolutely everything that is not on your child's body, including coats, hats, shoes, anything they may remove.

It rained heavily during the first couple days of school this year so Lee wore his new yellow rain slicker that he is in love with.  When I went to pick him up that afternoon, the teacher greeted me with a most apologetic look on her face.  "I'm so sorry, but we accidentally gave his coat to the boy he shares a cubby with", she said.  The perfect storm of circumstances lead to this unfortunate mishap that left my child with no coat to wear home in the rain.  The other boy was picked up early that day by someone who was not his mother or father and couldn't have known that he did not own the coat.  The teacher handed over the book bag and coat thinking it belonged to the right child.  The other child's name was in his coat, but Lee's name was not.  I guess there was some confusion as to who was who because the wrong coat was left behind for Lee.  It was an honest mistake but try explaining that to a 3 year old who is just getting used to a new situation.  It was not pretty.  Luckily, by the time we got outside the rain stated to hold up so he didn't get very wet at all.  The coat was returned the next morning and all was well.

Since then, I've learned to put his name on absolutely everything that is not attached to him - clothing, sheets, blankets, pillows, utensils, etc.  I use the labels from Name Bubbles and they're great.  I especially love the shoe labels because they have a plastic protective cover that keeps the labels in place.

Testing, Testing

If you've been reading (and I know you have been), you'll see that the Board of Ed has announced launched the gifted and talented testing program for the 2010/2011 school year for students entering kindergarden and the primary grades.  This testing is not mandatory, it's only for parents who want their children to qualify for one of the gifted and talented program.  Starting this year, for the first time, the city is choosing to enforce an old law on the books that says all students in publicly funded pre-k programs must be tested for developmental disabilities.  That's right, if your child is in a universal pre-k program in public school, he/she WILL be tested.

I am not crazy about all of this testing of the youngest ones in school and there are some in education who feel the same way.  As this NY1 article states, some teachers and program directors are concerned about false positive results.  "You are going to have kids who are just refusing to do these tasks and won't be able to do them as their supposed to according to this assessment, simply because they are fearful.  They may be uncomfortable, they may be hungry.", says Martha Foote of Time Out From Testing.

In the same article, DOE Spokesman William Havemann says about the test, "It will be used for early detection of developmental delays, and for no other purpose.  It will not go in a student's permanent record, and will be used only in pre-kindergarten."

Tell us what you think.   Leave a comment and tell us if your child has been or will be tested and how you feel about the issue.

G&T handbooks now available online

Handbooks for the NYC Board of Education 2009/2010 Gifted and Talented program are current available online.  Here are important program dates:

Applicants who were born in 2005, 2004, 2003 & 2002

(Please note: For K, 1st, 2nd, & 3rd grade placement in the 2010 - 2011 school year)

October 7, 2009: Gifted & Talented Test Information handbooks available online

October 7 – November 6, 2009: Window for submitting the Request For Testing (RFT) forms open

October 13, 2009: Gifted & Talented Test Information handbooks available at schools (with Request For Testing forms and OLSAT practice test included)

October 13 – October 23, 2009: Community Information Sessions

January 4 – February 26, 2010: OLSAT/BSRA testing at school sites for public school students

January 9, 10, 23, 24, 30 & 31 and February 6 & 7, 2010: OLSAT/BSRA testing at selected sites for non-public school children

Early April, 2010: Score reports and applications with available G&T sites communicated to eligible students

Late April, 2010: Applications due

June 2010: Placement offers communicated to parents

June 2010: Parents accept/decline placement offer