Cough, cough, sneeze…it’s flu season

It's only been 2 days since school started and we have our first cold. That has to be some sort of record. Lee got sick on the weekend so we'll be going to the doctor tomorrow. Thankfully, It seems to be a very mild cold - sneezing, coughing and congestion. I'll take him in to see his pediatrician tomorrow as we need to provide a doctor's note for absences from school, due to illness. I'm not sure that this is absolutely necessary for the 3 year olds because they get sick so often, especially if this is their first time in a setting with so many other kids.

Of course, everyone is scared of the H1N1 virus (aka Swine Flu). Along with our student handbook, we received a very detailed handout with procedure and policies for dealing with the H1N1 virus. It states, if your child is ill, please keep him/her at hone. Once all symptoms wear off, it is requested that they stay home an additional 24 hours before returning to school, just to be safe.

The H1N1 vaccine has just been approved. Will you be getting your child vaccinated?

The first days

As a producer, I approach all productions by planning for and expecting the worst while striving for the best. I'm happy to say that the first days of preschool seem to be going very well for my boy, so far.

On the very first day, the pre-k and kindergarden students gathered in the cafeteria to meet the teachers and then go up to the classroom. The 3 year old class was split into 2 groups with half the kids starting on Wednesday and the other half starting on Thursday. We started on Thursday. We were the first ones from the pre-k class to arrive in the cafeteria. I thought we were late because no other families were there. Lee was anxious and so was I. He did not want me to leave him. About 10 minutes later the teacher and other families started to arrive. A sticker with his name on it from the teacher was all that was needed put Lee at ease, and he soon started to play a bit and jump around. When everyone arrived we all lined up behind the teacher and walked upstairs to the classroom. In the classroom, we helped the kids to put their coat and bookbags in their cubbies then stood off to the side while they all sat in a circle at the front of the class. They played a little getting acquainted game then found their place at preassigned tables with their names and started to color/draw with crayons. While they were coloring, the parents were asked to say goodbye and left the classroom.

Classes were only half day the first week. Each day that I go to pick Lee up he says he had fun at school. Now that they are going for a full day, he is taking a nap and having breakfast and lunch there. He hasn't asked me to eat breakfast at home and he's not hungry at the end of the day so he must be enjoying what is being served and actually eating it.

We haven't completed the separation at drop off yet. We're still meeting downstairs and walking up to the classroom with them. Some parents are able to leave their kids in the cafeteria. I'm sure we'll get to that point soon.

Family Annex –“Phase-in” week

My almost 3 yr. old daughter Surta is attending Family Annex. It is parent cooperative school. Parents participate in committees to run school more efficiently. The school has Reggio Emilia approach. It encourages creative thinking for children and encourages teachers, parents and children to be researcher.

Surta’s all three teachers visited us at home last week. She had a good interaction with them. Since then she was ready and excited to attend the school. First three days were short about an hour to 1 ½ hour. Surta, daddy and mommy entered the class, the teachers greeted us and she started exploring the class. When I mentioned that “we are leaving and will be back soon.” She was perfectly fine. As if she knows the place, people, activities forever!  Let’s see how today – the first full day goes!

New Family Get Together

A lot of our families have already known each other since our kids were newborns.  I am a co-founder of Harlem4kids- a non-profit that encourages early childhood education through storytime , special events aimed at our community and parental support in NYC. Still, while we tried to reach out to all families in Harlem, there were a large group that we hadn't gotten to know.

I knew a lot of parents and kids were excited and a bit nervous and thought a couple of get togethers before school would help us start to bond and create a strong group of committed parents. I know that top schools only become that way because of parents. relinquishing that responsibility AND relying on just the school staff is a baaaaaad idea.

PS 180 is a great school- have been involved in various volunteer aspects for the last three years- love the grounds, love the staff, a few things I'm not crazy about, but that's where parents come in right?

So I organized a picnic for all 50 families- thank god it was August and a lot of people were out of town! We had a third show up- about half of us knew each other really well- the other third from seeing each other in the neighborhood, the rest not at all. The PTA president came ( a real dynamo)and so did the parent coordinator (with whom I've become good friends).

The picnic was great- our kids made new friends. The parents were all brimming with excitement,  ready to make a difference. This will wane of course, it will be interesting to see who is as involved at the end of the year.

Orientation

My son, Lee, will be attending a private Catholic school on the upper west side of New York City and last Wednesday was new parent orientation night.  It was a chance for all of the new parents to meet each other, meet the teachers and hear from the principal about procedures and policies.  It was a nice night.  I really like the fact that spent a lot of time with the teachers and fellow parents, asking questions and getting acquainted.  This is my son's first school experience so I'm extremely nervous.  Like most parents, it's hard to know whether or not you've made a good decision choosing a school/program that is a good fit for your child.

A few days after school starts, we will sit down with the teachers again for a more detailed discussion of the curriculum and what the days will be like for the kids.  Communication is extremely important and so far this principal has really been good about being open and accessible in addressing my queries.  And trust me, I've got a lot of them!

Each family was given a list of supplies that they need to provide for the classroom.  It's a very reasonable list and we are happy to supply them.

Lee is not excited to start school because he wants to continue staying home with Mommy.  That's to be expected, since I've been home with him since he was born.  This will be our first separated experience so we'll be figuring things out together.  The program is all day from 8:15 to 2:30, five days a week.  There is an after school option available on a daily/weekly/monthly basis which is great to have if, or should I say when, I start working again.  We enrolled in a five week summer program this summer so that he could get used to being away from me for longer periods of time.  He cried every morning that I dropped him off up until the last week.  Even though he cried, he did say that he had fun when I picked him up in the afternoons so that made me feel better.  I know we'll be going through it again when school starts but I'm better prepared to handle it this time.

First Day of School

This month lots of new things happened in our lives. Hubby and I will return working full time and the boys have already begun going to daycare. Amari is in preschool and gets so excited about it the night before that he can't sleep. Joshy does alright, but I'm sure he would rather crawl over daddy and go swimming.



I started working last week. I am a Marketing Manager for a global tea brand. I was recalling how much of Amari's life I have worked, and the answer is not much. I think I've only worked 6 months out of the three years of his life. Between maternity leave and business school, our boys have had a monopoly on our time.



So, two weeks ago was the first day of school for the boys. Everything went fine for them. And everything went fine for me until it was time for pick up. When hubby and I entered the daycare Amari was excited to see us and Joshy was LOUDLY expressing his discontent. I came over to him, expecting outstretched arms, but instead he gave me a neutral expression. I held him and squeezed him to let me know that we had indeed come back for him, but he was nonchalant at the most.



As I was gathering his lunch box, daddy must have appeared because I heard Joshy shrill, yell "BaBa!" and run with arms outstreched towards hubby. Wow! What a response for the man that did not carry that baby for nine months and then labor to bring him into the world. I have to say that I was very disappointed about Joshua's reaction to seeing me. This feeling did not mean that I was jealous of hubby. I am overjoyed at the closeness, initimacy and strength of their father son relationship.

My heart was just a little bit crushed, but I can take it in stride. My cape came in the mail today (that is my supermom cape), so I can chin up and keep moving.